In which blindly wandering leads to expectations going unmet and yet exceeded.
I read a lot on vacation. When you are at the beach most of the time it's what you have to do, otherwise you go crazy. Though in all honesty I think I did go a little crazy anyway. This year I reread one of my favorite books, Cat's Cradle, by Kurt Vonnegut. It is a satirical story that focuses on, among other ideas, religion. All throughout the book there are teachings, wisdoms, and fragments of calypso songs by Bokonon, the creator of Bokononism. As I was reading this morning a quote jumped out at me and I was instantly taken back to Valencia.
The last few days we spent in Spain we were in Madrid. While we were there a question popped into my head that I began to ask my students about. That question was: "what moment best encapsulates your overall experience in Spain?" I really liked this question. I got to hear about highlights of various students while at the same time really forcing them to consider what their trip was all about. This post will, in a roundabout way, get to the moment for me. Along the way I am going to try and punctuate my story with quotes from other, more talented authors.
As Bokonon says: 'Peculiar travel suggestions are dancing lessons from God1.'
Well before we left for Spain my student Emily was in my office and we looking at the city on Google Maps. We noticed that there was a very large lake just south of town that had a national park around the southern coast. Obviously we had very little frame of reference about how long it would take to get there, but we knew that we wanted to try and spend a day there.
Then we got a look at our schedule for our time in Valencia. It was jam packed, just about every day had class and or an event happening. It seemed less and less likely that we would be able to make the trip down. Then, as our final week began, it was decided that we were going to cancel one planned activity on our last day in Valencia to give our students more free time to end on. Emily immeadiately went to talk to our contact Manuel to get details about getting to the lake. After talking to Manuel she immediately found me and asked me to talk to Manuel about getting to the lake. To her credit it was not the simplest journey. Here is what we were told:
Take a city bus to a specific stop. Leave bus and transfer to another. Leave second bus and walk to the stop for the bus out of town. The stop will only be marked by a small sign and will arrive at 4:00pm. Ride the bus bound for El Palmar for 30 minutes, it will drop you off at the edge of town. Make sure you are back at the stop at 8 because that's the last bus back into town.
It was a little convoluted but it seemed do able so we planned to meet up in the afternoon after the girls finished their last lunch with their homestay families. We opened the trip to anyone that was interested but in the end my travel companions were once again Kate and Emily.
I met Kate and Emily and the first leg of our journey went off with out a hitch. We caught our two city buses and arrived at the point that Manuel had described with over half and hour to spare. There was even a little yellow sign and a guy waiting by it. Success!
But that's the glory of foreign travel, as far as I am concerned. I don't want to know what people are talking about. I can't think of anything that excites a greater sense of childlike wonder than to be in a country where you are ignorant of almost everything. Suddenly you are five years old again. You can't read anything, you have only the most rudimentary sense of how things work, you can't even reliably cross a street without endangering your life. Your whole existence becomes a series of interesting guesses2.
It was an unusually cold, cloudy, and windy day in Valencia. We had been spoiled with amazing weather our whole trip and now things were a little more uncomfortable. There was no bench or shelter at this bus stop so to help keep warm we just sat on the sun-soaked sidewalk. I'm sure we looked quite absurd. As four o'clock approached two things happened. One good, one not so much. The good was that other people started milling about this bus stop, which definitely filled me with some confidence. The not so good? Rain. It wasn't for long but it did start raining fairly heavily while we waited. So Emily, Kate and I took shelter as best we could underneath a small tree that was nearby. It served it's purpose, though now we were both cold and wet.
As we were waiting for our bus we kept seeing touring buses arrive and stop near where we were but not where we were. Kate, being ever so helpful, began asking if we were in the right location. Was I sure that this is where our bus would pick up? There are other buses stopping across the street, are you sure that's not where we should be?
No, Kate, I said, this is where Manuel told us to be. I'm sure we are in the right place. (Fun fact, I was NOT at all sure we were in the right place. That doubt would soon increase).
Things got really interesting when four o'clock came and went and no bus arrived. Well, that's is to say no buses arrived at our stop. Plenty of other buses passed us and stopped near us, and every time Kate would ask if we try to find a different stop. I told her that we were absolutely in the right place, because when you lead a trip like this sometimes the best thing you can do it put down a huge line of bullshit. The only thing that kept me sticking with my story was that the other people waiting were a) still waiting and b) looked as perplexed at the lateness as we did.
Finally at 4:30 a bus pulled up. Kate, who speaks better Spanish then she gives herself credit for, asked the young guys who was initially waiting for the bus if it was headed to El Palmar. He spoke to the driver who confirmed that it was, in fact, our bus. I breathed a deep sign of relief at knowing I did not ruin our last day in town.
We hopped on board and grabbed the seats way in the back. On our trip we chatted and bullshitted about who knows what. After a little while there was a break in tall grass to our right and we had our first great look at the lake. It was beautiful (and we learned the week before that it was the biggest lake in Spain) and our excitement grew.
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The lake, as seen from out bus ride home. |
Then our bus unexpectedly turned left, away from the lake.
Once again questions began. Should be get off at one of these stops? Is this the right way? I assured them both that were were headed the right way and we should stick with the plan. Eventually we approached a parking lot looking area which I knew would be our stop. Our young friend from earlier found us and told us that this was our stop. We climbed off our bus and started walking towards the sleepy little town of El Palmar, sure that our lakeside adventure was about to begin.
What a bunch of idiots.
There are several ways to react to being lost. One is to panic...another is to abandon yourself to lostness, to allow the fact that you've misplaced yourself to change the way you experience the world3.
We strolled into El Palmar in the same manner that we moved through just about every Spanish city that we visited. We picked a road and started walking, in what we assumed was the direction of the park. El Palmar was a strange little town. On the Main Street every single building housed a restaurant. All of them had tables and chairs set up on the sidewalks. It seemed incredibly quaint.
And yet, it was empty.
We walked up and down the streets of El Palmar multiple times throughout the day and all together we saw, perhaps, 7 people. It was like something out of the Twilight Zone, everyone had been kidnapped and was currently being replaced by pod people. If only we were there the next day I'm sure we would have met a large number of kind people with vacant looks in their eyes.
It was really quite upsetting to be in such a deserted town, especially after being in some of the most crowded cities in the country. But we didn't have much time to think about it. We had a park to explore and not much time in which to explore it. So onward we went. I was using my incredibly unreliable and crappy cellphone to navigate us to where we needed to be. I kept saying things like, "I think it's this way" or "it seems like it should be down this road." I'm sure I filled the girls with a great deal of confidence.
We can to what can only be described as a dirt path that headed away from the road for a bit before curving around a bend. According to the map this road would lead us directly to the park. I told Kate and Emily that's the direction we needed to go. Emily was, as usual, all for it. Kate was, as usual, a little more hesitant, but she was a trooper and came right along (also she's a Type 2, so she was going to go where ever we left anyway). So we headed down the path, wondering just where it would lead us. As we came around the bend I just had to laugh. In the middle of the path was a tractor, a truck, and a car. Along with a few farmers having a chat. To either side of the path? Rice fields. As far as the eye could see.
The traveler sees what he sees. The tourist sees what he has come to see4.
There is no park. That's the punchline of the joke. Or, I guess more accurately, the park was the rice fields. It wasn't a park in the traditional American sense, it was there to protect the land and the paella rice fields. So we walked down these paths, laughing and talking. We told stories to one another, each more ridiculous than the last. It was one of my most cherished moments of the trip, and that walk between the rice paddies was my moment that most typifies my Spanish experience.
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The typifying moment. |
When we came to a crossroads we decided that we had had enough of "hiking to the park" and figured we would try and get to the lake. We walk directly to the closest shore line of the lake only to find our way blocked by a private farm. So we began to follow the edges of the farms and walking back along the road that the bus came in on, hoping to, at the very least, catch a glimpse of the lake.
Eventually we would, we got right up to the edge. But before that Emily schemed about how to steal fruit that was hanging just out of reach. Kate befriended a sickly looking feral cat (she had to chase it was Harry and the Hendersons style). We attempted to, and initially failed at, taking a selfie (thanks zoom lens). And we discovered an oddly out of place hotel that included a group of gentlemen sitting on the porch sharing a bottle of Johnny Walker, it was like something out of a movie. I'd really wished that I could speak Spanish so I could chat with those guys.
We finally did get close to the lake. Obviously it would have been optimal to have found a beach, or a park, or, hell, even like a boat ramp or a pier. Instead what we found was a cemetery (really more of a mausoleum). Behind the cemetery was a small garden, a chimney that I hope wasn't for cremating bodies, and the lake. It was about as unglamorous as it gets, and totally in line with what our day had been like thus far.
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Our astonishing lakeside view, cemetery adjacent. |
Eventually we realized this glimpse, this taste of the lake was as close as we were going to get. So we decided to head back to El Palmar to get a drink and kill time before our bus came.
I have found out that there ain't no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them5.
I don't know if I can put into words how great it was to spend so much time with Kate and Emily. Any time you go through an experience like this trip you are going to get to know the people you are with on a deeper level. I had the amazing opportunity to watch these two amazing young women get to know themselves better and get to know each other better as well. As an added bonus I got to know them better. There were conversations that I had with each of them individually that I will always cherish. And there were moments, like sharing a pitcher of sangria in the one freaking restaurant that was open in all of El Palmar, that will always make me smile.
I've been doing my job for just about two years now and I still tell people that I meet that it is the best job that I've ever had. Experiences like this day, knowing students like Emily and Kate, that's why I love my job. It has been my absolute joy and honor to have gotten to know these two young women. To be there when things are good, and to be there for them when things are at their worst. They drive me up the wall at times, but more often they make me smile and laugh and love life more.
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Wisely taken in the middle of a one-way bridge. |
I hope that they realize how much they mean to me, and that no matter where life takes them I will be there for them.
It is not the destination where you end up but the mishaps and memories you create along the way6!
This post went on way longer than I had expected. I didn't even get to the trip home, which was full of it's own misadventures. Especially for the girls.
But that's their story, not mine.
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1) Vonnegut, Kurt. Cat's Cradle. New York; Dell, 1963.
2) Bryson, Bill. Neither Here Nor There: Travels in Europe. New York; William Morrow Paperbacks, 1992.
3) Niffenegger, Audrey. Her Fearful Symmetry. London; Scribner, 2009.
4) Quote by G.K. Chesterton
5) Twain, Mark. Tom Sawyer Abroad. New York; Charles L. Webster & Co, 1894.
6) Riley, Penelope. Travel Absurdities. iUniverse, 2008.